Living By Design Part III
- LaFern Cusack
- Mar 5, 2019
- 2 min read
Updated: Mar 27, 2023
Dr. Phil "Phil's In The Blanks..."
What are the ten defining moments in your life? What seven critical choices have you made? And who are the five pivotal people that you’ve encountered along the way? These are just a few of the questions that Dr. Phil explores on this podcast that could help reveal why you're where you are right at this moment.
Ten Defining Moments: In every person’s life, there have been moments, both positive and negative, that have defined and redefined who you are. Those events entered your consciousness with such power that they changed the very core of who and what you thought you were. A part of you was changed by those events, and caused you to define yourself, to some degree by your experience of that event.
Seven Critical Choices: There are a surprisingly small number of choices that rise to the level of life-changing ones. Critical choices are those that have changed your life, positively or negatively, and are major factors in determining who and what you will become. They are the choices that have affected your life up to today, and have set you on a path.
Five Pivotal People: These are the people who have left indelible impressions on your concept of self, and therefore, the life you live. They may be family members, friends or co-workers, and their influences can be either positive or negative. They are people who can determine whether you live consistently with your authentic self, or instead live a counterfeit life controlled by a fictional self that has crowded out who you really are.
Test of Congruence: The profile will help you see the degree to which your current life experience — how you are thinking, feeling, and living — compares to what your experience would be if you were living an ideal, fully authentic, and fulfilling life. This takes you through a three-step process.
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